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I swear I'm not trying to start a debate.. I just want to chime in again on a pervious post...because as humans we have all faced different stuggles in our lives which make us who we are.

I am married to my second husband right now. My first is whom I was refering to in my first post.. but it was me who wanted out not him. He could do NOTHING to change my mind even though I didn't have anyone else I was interested in.. I just wasn't interested in him.

That being said.. in the relationship I am in now.. DH was very casually dating me and another girl at the same time in teh beginining. He and I became serious and he got rid of her... but she is a customer of his now. It drove me insane for a very long time. He hid things about her from me for a while then things got ugly when I found out. For a very long time I had no trust in him and we fought about her constantly. Now, 3 years later and a long period of time of him being overly honest and open with me to the point where he thought at times I was controlling his life.. we are doing great and we NEVER fight about her or do I even in the slightest bit doubt his faithfulness to me. He goes overboard in proving that to me so I never have to doubt. It did take a few very rough months and it took him realizing that No I was controlling him but that he had to prove I could trust him and he had to regain my trust. It was hard but for us it worked. I have no doubt in my mind that DH will be faithful to me in body, heart, mind and soul for the rest of his life. Why? Because we went through a rough time and we both ended up at rock bottom completely broken then worked ourselves back up TOGETHER! The whole key is TOGETHER! That's why I said in my original post that he has to be positive it's what he wants or else it won't work. Men are more needy than women in a lot of ways yet they would never admit it!

True love is very hard to find and it's hard to give up too! I thought I loved my first husband and even once I realized I didn't it was still hard to give up on him. It took me a very long time to tell him how I felt. He tried soo hard to make me love him again but I just didn't and couldn't.

I dont' know what you situation entails or the ins and outs of your relationship but I hope and pray that the very best happens for you. It may seem like the worse period in your life but something better will come from it. Either a much better and closer relationship with the man you are with now or maybe even a much better relationship with another man down the road.

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